Do you suffer from neurotic love? The symptoms are that you constantly move from one relationship to another. Neurotic love is driven by a constant fear of loss and withdrawal. Ironically the threat of loss triggers flight and an overwhelming desire to destroy the relationship. The sequence of events often takes the following course: Here [...]

Nathaniel Branden has written an excellent book called The Psychology of Romantic Love and in this post I plan to share some of his insights and also add my own comments. Branden writes: “Autonomy and self-esteem are inseparable; both presuppose successful separation and individuation.” One of the most important insights in the book is the [...]

“Human pain does not let go of its grip at one point in time. Rather, it works its way out of our consciousness over time. There is a season of sadness. A season of anger. A season of tranquility. A season of hope.” -Robert Veninga The age old saying, “Breaking up is hard to do,” [...]

A relationship breakup can be extraordinarily stressful.  In many ways it is similar to the grief that can be experienced when someone dies. There are many reasons why the breakup of a relationship is so stressful. 1. The breakup forces us to make changes that we may not find desirable; 2. We can experience an [...]