“Human pain does not let go of its grip at one point in time.
Rather, it works its way out of our consciousness over time.
There is a season of sadness. A season of anger. A season of
tranquility. A season of hope.” -Robert Veninga
The age old saying, “Breaking up is hard to do,” is so true.
It’s never easy but, it is something that you will get beyond
in time. Ah yes, and the second age old saying, “Time heals
all wounds,” goes right along with it. Clichés? Yes.
But also no truer words have ever been spoken.
Going through the process of healing your broken heart is
not only survivable but you will come through it a stronger,
wiser person in time.
We have all been visited by heartache at some point in our
lives. All of our situations are different but the emotions
that go along with ending a relationship are universal. It
is all a part of the grieving process.
The first thing to do is; don’t feel bad for feeling bad.
It’s normal to feel the way you do, so let it go, get
through the process and know in the end you will actually BE
Learn not to live in the past by holding onto all of the old
memories, going over and over what happened and why. Instead,
start to pick up the pieces of your life by accepting what
has happened and begin the process of moving on.
Ultimately it ends up being a choice you make. You either
hold onto the past or you move onto the future by making
healthy choices. By choosing the right outlook about what
has happened and by keeping your focus on the future.
I know it’s easy to say, but it can be done. Stop thinking
about what makes you feel bad, i.e. all of the pain,
loneliness, betrayal, jealousy, conversations you’d like to
have and the ones you wish you had, and all of the other
feelings that haunt you daily.
Learn how to flip the script in your mind to one that will
serve you in a way that will help you get through the pain,
not one that will keep you stuck in the past. Start to talk
to yourself in a way a friend would. Give yourself the same
advice you would give to someone you love who was going
through the same situation.
The reality is that even though you don’t feel you will ever
get beyond this heartache, you absolutely WILL get beyond it.
Acceptance is the first step. Tell yourself the truth about
what is going on and as another age old cliché states,
“The truth will set you free!”
You can and will heal your broken heart when you give
yourself time, you are honest with yourself and you tell
yourself the kinds of things that will keep you moving
Life is a series of peaks and valleys, highs and lows, joys
and disappointments. It’s when you learn to appreciate what
you DO have and when you learn to still be grateful for your
blessings that you can move through the valleys of life
knowing that “Life goes on!”
A lot of life can be seen through the old clichés, I
believe they are there for a reason which comes from the
experience of living. Each day is a new opportunity to look
at life with the “right attitude.”
So decide that you are strong and will survive and don’t
hold onto the past but hold onto the hope that life is good
and “Life is what you choose to make it!”
About the Author:
Susan Russo is an author and coach who has helped people from
around the world move beyond heartache and pain after their
breakup or divorce. Would you like to heal your broken heart
sooner rather than later? Find out exactly how with Susan’s
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